The Power of Beliefs,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots
Of all the things that influence our lives, our beliefs is perhaps the most important. What we believe shapes our attitude and behaviour, and if we want to change or transform our lives we cannot truly succeed without changing our beliefs.
The Internet is filled with stories about how the power of belief can and has changed a person's life. What is less obvious to most people is how our beliefs determine our day to day reality.
I once heard a testimony from a public speaker about how he unconsciously allowed his belief to alter his life. Here's his story:
"I had a very good working relationship with my boss until this incident occurred.
One day, my boss told me that he was picking up a very important client from the airport and he invited me to come along. I felt it was an honour to be invited along to welcome our important client. We drove to the airport in his car. He was driving and I was in the front passanger seat.
At the airport, we did not need to wait long before we met our client and quickly walked him to the car.
As we neared the car, all of a sudden, my boss tossed me his car keys and asked me to drive. He simply seated himself with the client in the back seat. They chatted all the way back, oblivious to my presence.
At that moment, I felt and believed that my boss has used me. He has invited me along so that he can get a driver for himself and our client. I felt so angry with him that from that moment on my impression of him has changed. I did not believe that this was a man who would look after my interest.
After this incident, I felt the need to get back at him. Each time we have a company meeting, I tried to sabotage his proposals and suggestions by pointing out the negative aspects of his ideas,Direct that energy into solving whatever the problem is. Just a thought.. I wanted to make things tough for him,but exercise is certainly part of the daily routine of successful people..
This went on for several years until I left the company for another job. Even up to the day I left, he had no idea why my attitude towards him had changed."
Self Limiting Beliefs
A belief is merely a perception of reality. What we choose to believe, therefore, determines OUR reality. Our attitude and behaviour change to be in congruent with our beliefs.
"Whether you believe it or not, it's true,one is bound to conclude that IQ fouls a morally grounded and socially responsible culture."
"Whatever our mind conceives and believes, it achieves."
"Your universe begins in your mind."
"You can choose what to believe in."
It is important to realise that there are constructive beliefs and destructive beliefs. A constructive belief is a belief that expands life and leads to empowerment and fulfilment of life. A destructive belief is a self limiting belief that constrict your life and leads to a loss of power.
Unfortunately for most of us, we have a lot more self limiting beliefs that constructive beliefs. This is ONE big reason why we are stuck in our lives and feel as if we are the victims of fate, unable to determine our own lives.
The moment we change these self limiting beliefs with more positive ones, our attitude and behaviour will automatically change to be in congruence with our new beliefs, and with that change we will attract new and more liberating possibilities into our lives.
Changing our beliefs
Changing our beliefs requires effort and persistence. Old habits die hard. Being creatures of habits, there is always an unconscious resistance to change within us. Thus, it is important to recruit as many tools as we can to help us change our beliefs.
These are some of the tools I used:
1. Affirmations
2. Visualisations
3. Subliminal messages
4. Hypnosis
5. Meditation
Used together, they become a very potent way to effect change in our beliefs. It has worked for me and countless others and I know it can work for you too.
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Monday, November 26, 2012
you might be a workaholic redneck."
Could You Be A Workaholic,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots?
If you need to put on boots and grab a lap-top computer to relieve yourself at night, you might be a redneck workaholic.
It never crossed my mind that there could be such a thing as a redneck workaholic, until I read a column on "Are you a workaholic?"
"Did you read this?" I asked my wife. "Are you a workaholic? It looks just like those you-might-be-a-redneck jokes."
My wife studied the page. "Maybe it was written by a redneck alcoholic." She suggested.
"Workaholic, not alcoholic."
"How do you know the writer is not an alcoholic?" she demanded.
"I don't. But the column is about workaholics, and it reads just like a series of redneck jokes."
"Well, maybe it was written by a redneck workaholic, then." She suggested.
"No way. There is no such a thing."
"Why not?" she wanted to know.
"Because workaholics sit late in front of computer screens and steroid-laced in-boxes, wearing $500 suits and $550 haircuts,1. Get a life purpose statement.. Folks out here wear $19.95 jeans and occasionally wash their hair."
"But many of them do spend late hours in front of their computers," my wife pointed out.
"Like who?"
"Like you."
"Oh, yeah"
"Being a workaholic is not just about computers and offices and taking out a mortgage for a haircut," she added,health and overall happiness in life visit. "Look at Buster."
"Buster?"
"Sure, every time he's set to retire, he goes and buys another machine," she pointed out. "One year it was a backhoe. Another it was a dump truck."
"Wow, he must be desperate this year."
"Why?" my wife asked.
"Because this year he bought a whole combine"
"Ooh, that does sound desperate."
"plus a farm to use it on!"
"See,and grab the steering wheel?" my wife smiled. "You don't have to live in the city to be a workaholic. There can be such a thing as a workaholic redneck.
"That's a pity. Being a workaholic means missing out on a lot of life."
"That's true, but it's not just city folk who miss their kids growing up or are too busy working to help their wives clean the dishes."
I took the hint and picked up a drying cloth. "You mean that anyone can get caught up in work, and lose sight of what's really important? Even farmers, moat diggers and the guy who sorts through the trash at the dump looking for the tastiest morsels to throw to the gulls?"
"I suppose so," she answered with that what-have-you-been-smoking look on her face. "Why not try to see if workaholic redneck jokes work?"
"Well, if you look forward to Christmas this year, because you might take the afternoon off from tilling the land, you might be a workaholic redneck."
"That's the spirit," she encouraged.
I tried another, "If you're drinking your morning coffee from a dirty mason jar from yesterday, you might be a workaholic redneck."
"Very good," she praised.
"If you stick family pictures to your backhoe window to remind you what they look like, you might be a workaholic redneck."
"Why not try one more, just to make sure?" my wife suggested.
"OK, if you bring your work with you to your son's baseball game, you might be a workaholic redneck."
"Uh, OK" she began.
"And if nobody complains about the smell, you might live in a town full of workaholic rednecks!"
"You got it!" she shouted.
I realized that I had spent way too much time talking about workaholic redneck jokes. There was only one thing I could do to compensate.
I tossed aside the drying cloth, grabbed my lap-top computer and rushed to the outhouse to catch up on a few hundred urgent emails.
If you need to put on boots and grab a lap-top computer to relieve yourself at night, you might be a redneck workaholic.
It never crossed my mind that there could be such a thing as a redneck workaholic, until I read a column on "Are you a workaholic?"
"Did you read this?" I asked my wife. "Are you a workaholic? It looks just like those you-might-be-a-redneck jokes."
My wife studied the page. "Maybe it was written by a redneck alcoholic." She suggested.
"Workaholic, not alcoholic."
"How do you know the writer is not an alcoholic?" she demanded.
"I don't. But the column is about workaholics, and it reads just like a series of redneck jokes."
"Well, maybe it was written by a redneck workaholic, then." She suggested.
"No way. There is no such a thing."
"Why not?" she wanted to know.
"Because workaholics sit late in front of computer screens and steroid-laced in-boxes, wearing $500 suits and $550 haircuts,1. Get a life purpose statement.. Folks out here wear $19.95 jeans and occasionally wash their hair."
"But many of them do spend late hours in front of their computers," my wife pointed out.
"Like who?"
"Like you."
"Oh, yeah"
"Being a workaholic is not just about computers and offices and taking out a mortgage for a haircut," she added,health and overall happiness in life visit. "Look at Buster."
"Buster?"
"Sure, every time he's set to retire, he goes and buys another machine," she pointed out. "One year it was a backhoe. Another it was a dump truck."
"Wow, he must be desperate this year."
"Why?" my wife asked.
"Because this year he bought a whole combine"
"Ooh, that does sound desperate."
"plus a farm to use it on!"
"See,and grab the steering wheel?" my wife smiled. "You don't have to live in the city to be a workaholic. There can be such a thing as a workaholic redneck.
"That's a pity. Being a workaholic means missing out on a lot of life."
"That's true, but it's not just city folk who miss their kids growing up or are too busy working to help their wives clean the dishes."
I took the hint and picked up a drying cloth. "You mean that anyone can get caught up in work, and lose sight of what's really important? Even farmers, moat diggers and the guy who sorts through the trash at the dump looking for the tastiest morsels to throw to the gulls?"
"I suppose so," she answered with that what-have-you-been-smoking look on her face. "Why not try to see if workaholic redneck jokes work?"
"Well, if you look forward to Christmas this year, because you might take the afternoon off from tilling the land, you might be a workaholic redneck."
"That's the spirit," she encouraged.
I tried another, "If you're drinking your morning coffee from a dirty mason jar from yesterday, you might be a workaholic redneck."
"Very good," she praised.
"If you stick family pictures to your backhoe window to remind you what they look like, you might be a workaholic redneck."
"Why not try one more, just to make sure?" my wife suggested.
"OK, if you bring your work with you to your son's baseball game, you might be a workaholic redneck."
"Uh, OK" she began.
"And if nobody complains about the smell, you might live in a town full of workaholic rednecks!"
"You got it!" she shouted.
I realized that I had spent way too much time talking about workaholic redneck jokes. There was only one thing I could do to compensate.
I tossed aside the drying cloth, grabbed my lap-top computer and rushed to the outhouse to catch up on a few hundred urgent emails.
Friday, November 23, 2012
Are you pursuing a dream that you are passionate about
Jump Start Your Dreams by Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC
"So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then we summon the will, they soon become inevitable." Christopher Reeve
Are you pursuing a dream that you are passionate about? Do you have a dream that you have sat on for years and have not taken action on it? Do you even know what your dreams are?
Dreams are actually part of our guidance system in life. They give us clues and a road map for what roads we should be traveling. So if you feel unclear or confused about your dreams you have lost touch with your "dreaming" self. Your dreaming self is that part of you that is connected with all of the possibilities in life. It is the part of you that truly believes in the magic and joy of living. It is the part of you that will guide you to the sweetest happiness and fulfillment you could ever imagine. So often people get disconnected from their dreaming self at a very young age by parents who stopped connecting with their own dreaming selves.
When I work with clients, part of the healing process is to re- connect with their dreaming self. The part of them that has expansive dreams. Very often they believe this part of them is not even there anymore -that it is lost and they never can retrieve this part of them. The good news is that this part of them never goes away—it is just buried under the limiting beliefs of their conditioning and fears,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots. It may take a bit of time, but they can re-connect with this dreaming part of themselves and then start to listen to this voice.
You may be in that same position of being disconnected from your dreaming self too. If that is the case I will give you some tips to help you make this connection. Others of you may have some clarity about your dreams, but you have not taken action to pursue your dreams—I will address how to get beyond this too.
Tips to Reconnect with your Dreams
Let Go of Your Critical Thinking- To hear the voice of your dreams you first must quiet the critical voice inside. If you think of what it is like to share a dream with a friend and they shoot it down with criticism. How likely are you going to share your dreams with that person again? Not very likely. It is the same way with your internal voice of criticism. If you bring a dream into your own mind and right away you find ways it won't work or judge it as a stupid idea—the voice of your dreaming self will grow silent and pretty soon you have stopped dreaming. Open up to being loving and supportive of your dreams. This will create a safe environment for your dreams to come forward and be voiced inside of you.
Make a list of 100 things you would like to Do, Be or Have- This may be a bit of a challenge to start this, but as you work on this list you will be taking the heavy lid off your dreaming self and it will begin to speak to you---and you will be able to add things to the list. By starting the list you are priming the pump for more ideas to come through,The Secrets To Achieving A Well Trained Mind by Chris Dcruz. Here are some examples of things you may have on your list: travel to Hawaii, learn to salsa dance, learn to paint in watercolors, go on a weekend camping trip alone, take a family trip to the Grand Canyon, start your own business, be more adventurous etc.
Notice When You Like What Someone Else is Doing- Sometimes our dreams are brought forward because we see someone else living them. This can sometimes come out in a statement like "Oh, I wish I could do that". For example if you have a friend who travels a lot and you love to hear the stories of her adventures—this may be a dream of yours that you should take action on. Pay attention to when you feel this waythis can give you clues to your own dreams. What do you see other people doing that you would LOVE to do?
Forget about the "How" When You Are Dreaming- You may disregard your dream because you can't see how this dream could ever happen. You may say "I could never quit my job and do this thing I love—I can't see how it can happen." The most important thing is to identify the dream and decide if this is the dream you want to pursue. I have seen over and over that once people decide and commit---and move forward in action towards their dreams—the pieces of the puzzle of the "How" fall into place. You will not experience this if you hang back and try to figure it out in your head "how" to do it before you will decide if you will do it. The ideas, inspiration and the "how" come to you after you decide and commit.
Go somewhere Special and Inspirational to Contemplate Your Dreams- Take time from your busy schedule to reflect on your dreams. Sometimes people are so busy with their day to day lives that they don't have the time to reflect on their lives. You need time and space to drop down into your feeling self—that is where the dreaming part of you lives. Find a café or other inspirational place to go and reflect. Write at the topic of the page "If I could do anything I would.."—and just let your mind drift and write down the ideas that come to you. And remember like I mentioned above to quiet your critical voice while you are doing this.
Decide You Will Love Yourself Enough to Honor Your Dreams- It is an act of self- love to listen to the voice of your dreams and to pursue these special dreams. Just like you want the people in your own life that you love so dearly to be happy and to pursue their dreams—love yourself in that same way and listen to your own dreams. The level of happiness you feel in your life is directly related to how well you are listening to your dreaming self—and taking these dreams seriously.
If You Are Not Pursuing Your Dreams or are Confused about Your Dreams—What Are You Afraid Of,on your family?- If you have been stalled on pursuing your dream, know that there are some fears that are holding you back—some of these are conscious and some of these are unconscious. If they are conscious fears that you are aware of—write them down. Look at what you wrote from the highest part of you—the part of you filled with faith and trust. From this perspective write a response back to this fear. An example of a fear could be "I could never make money at doing a job that I love—I have to just stay stuck where I am at—besides things are so unstable with the economy right now I can't take any risks." Your answer back could be "Yes you can make money at doing a job you love—it just takes time, effort and persistence. Trust that as we pursue what we love we will be supported on every level. We can take steps now to move in that direction and trust that the right opportunity will open up for us. We actually will be in a better position with the economy if we move in a direction of doing what we love rather than staying stuck out of fear." Some of your fears may be more unconscious. To address these unconscious fears ask yourself on a piece of paper. "You aren't taking any steps towards your dreams—why are you so afraid?" Close your eyes and just listen in to what thoughts pop into your head—or the feeling you feel in your body. Write the response down and do the same thing as I listed above—which is to write a response to this fear from the highest part of you,Improve Your Focus By Asking Why by Karen Kelley.
Get Support- Out of everything I have listed above this is the most important tip of all. Get support from believe who believe in you and the beauty of your own dreams. In my last Life Purpose Mentoring Group some of the people had these dreams in their hearts for years, but never took action to pursue them. With the support of the program they made more progress in 3 months than they did in 10 years of sitting on their dream. Others were able to step out of the confusion of going around and around again about trying to figure out their Life Purpose and were finally able to get the clarity they needed to move forward. It was amazing—it was like seeing a group of people become alive again after years of holding themselves back and not fully living. The power of positive, inspirational support is a key element in moving beyond your fears into the joy of living your dreams.
Begin today to re-connect with your dreaming self and listen to its beautiful wisdom. Allow this wisdom to guide you to a life that is filled with joy and possibility!
"So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then we summon the will, they soon become inevitable." Christopher Reeve
Are you pursuing a dream that you are passionate about? Do you have a dream that you have sat on for years and have not taken action on it? Do you even know what your dreams are?
Dreams are actually part of our guidance system in life. They give us clues and a road map for what roads we should be traveling. So if you feel unclear or confused about your dreams you have lost touch with your "dreaming" self. Your dreaming self is that part of you that is connected with all of the possibilities in life. It is the part of you that truly believes in the magic and joy of living. It is the part of you that will guide you to the sweetest happiness and fulfillment you could ever imagine. So often people get disconnected from their dreaming self at a very young age by parents who stopped connecting with their own dreaming selves.
When I work with clients, part of the healing process is to re- connect with their dreaming self. The part of them that has expansive dreams. Very often they believe this part of them is not even there anymore -that it is lost and they never can retrieve this part of them. The good news is that this part of them never goes away—it is just buried under the limiting beliefs of their conditioning and fears,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots. It may take a bit of time, but they can re-connect with this dreaming part of themselves and then start to listen to this voice.
You may be in that same position of being disconnected from your dreaming self too. If that is the case I will give you some tips to help you make this connection. Others of you may have some clarity about your dreams, but you have not taken action to pursue your dreams—I will address how to get beyond this too.
Tips to Reconnect with your Dreams
Let Go of Your Critical Thinking- To hear the voice of your dreams you first must quiet the critical voice inside. If you think of what it is like to share a dream with a friend and they shoot it down with criticism. How likely are you going to share your dreams with that person again? Not very likely. It is the same way with your internal voice of criticism. If you bring a dream into your own mind and right away you find ways it won't work or judge it as a stupid idea—the voice of your dreaming self will grow silent and pretty soon you have stopped dreaming. Open up to being loving and supportive of your dreams. This will create a safe environment for your dreams to come forward and be voiced inside of you.
Make a list of 100 things you would like to Do, Be or Have- This may be a bit of a challenge to start this, but as you work on this list you will be taking the heavy lid off your dreaming self and it will begin to speak to you---and you will be able to add things to the list. By starting the list you are priming the pump for more ideas to come through,The Secrets To Achieving A Well Trained Mind by Chris Dcruz. Here are some examples of things you may have on your list: travel to Hawaii, learn to salsa dance, learn to paint in watercolors, go on a weekend camping trip alone, take a family trip to the Grand Canyon, start your own business, be more adventurous etc.
Notice When You Like What Someone Else is Doing- Sometimes our dreams are brought forward because we see someone else living them. This can sometimes come out in a statement like "Oh, I wish I could do that". For example if you have a friend who travels a lot and you love to hear the stories of her adventures—this may be a dream of yours that you should take action on. Pay attention to when you feel this waythis can give you clues to your own dreams. What do you see other people doing that you would LOVE to do?
Forget about the "How" When You Are Dreaming- You may disregard your dream because you can't see how this dream could ever happen. You may say "I could never quit my job and do this thing I love—I can't see how it can happen." The most important thing is to identify the dream and decide if this is the dream you want to pursue. I have seen over and over that once people decide and commit---and move forward in action towards their dreams—the pieces of the puzzle of the "How" fall into place. You will not experience this if you hang back and try to figure it out in your head "how" to do it before you will decide if you will do it. The ideas, inspiration and the "how" come to you after you decide and commit.
Go somewhere Special and Inspirational to Contemplate Your Dreams- Take time from your busy schedule to reflect on your dreams. Sometimes people are so busy with their day to day lives that they don't have the time to reflect on their lives. You need time and space to drop down into your feeling self—that is where the dreaming part of you lives. Find a café or other inspirational place to go and reflect. Write at the topic of the page "If I could do anything I would.."—and just let your mind drift and write down the ideas that come to you. And remember like I mentioned above to quiet your critical voice while you are doing this.
Decide You Will Love Yourself Enough to Honor Your Dreams- It is an act of self- love to listen to the voice of your dreams and to pursue these special dreams. Just like you want the people in your own life that you love so dearly to be happy and to pursue their dreams—love yourself in that same way and listen to your own dreams. The level of happiness you feel in your life is directly related to how well you are listening to your dreaming self—and taking these dreams seriously.
If You Are Not Pursuing Your Dreams or are Confused about Your Dreams—What Are You Afraid Of,on your family?- If you have been stalled on pursuing your dream, know that there are some fears that are holding you back—some of these are conscious and some of these are unconscious. If they are conscious fears that you are aware of—write them down. Look at what you wrote from the highest part of you—the part of you filled with faith and trust. From this perspective write a response back to this fear. An example of a fear could be "I could never make money at doing a job that I love—I have to just stay stuck where I am at—besides things are so unstable with the economy right now I can't take any risks." Your answer back could be "Yes you can make money at doing a job you love—it just takes time, effort and persistence. Trust that as we pursue what we love we will be supported on every level. We can take steps now to move in that direction and trust that the right opportunity will open up for us. We actually will be in a better position with the economy if we move in a direction of doing what we love rather than staying stuck out of fear." Some of your fears may be more unconscious. To address these unconscious fears ask yourself on a piece of paper. "You aren't taking any steps towards your dreams—why are you so afraid?" Close your eyes and just listen in to what thoughts pop into your head—or the feeling you feel in your body. Write the response down and do the same thing as I listed above—which is to write a response to this fear from the highest part of you,Improve Your Focus By Asking Why by Karen Kelley.
Get Support- Out of everything I have listed above this is the most important tip of all. Get support from believe who believe in you and the beauty of your own dreams. In my last Life Purpose Mentoring Group some of the people had these dreams in their hearts for years, but never took action to pursue them. With the support of the program they made more progress in 3 months than they did in 10 years of sitting on their dream. Others were able to step out of the confusion of going around and around again about trying to figure out their Life Purpose and were finally able to get the clarity they needed to move forward. It was amazing—it was like seeing a group of people become alive again after years of holding themselves back and not fully living. The power of positive, inspirational support is a key element in moving beyond your fears into the joy of living your dreams.
Begin today to re-connect with your dreaming self and listen to its beautiful wisdom. Allow this wisdom to guide you to a life that is filled with joy and possibility!
Thursday, November 22, 2012
The boldest public speaker was the class clown who seemed to have a natural talent for making jokes
Why Do We Fear Public Speaking? by George Torok
Public speaking is often rated as the greatest fear that adults have. Yet speaking by itself is not threatening to most. It's the public in public speaking that frightens people. Why is this?
Perhaps it's the way that you learned to speak in public. Most of us started speaking when we were around 1 year old. Our first words were enthusiastically cultivated and celebrated by our parents. Out first public speaking was what we did on the phone to our grand-parents.
Those were the good old days. Every word and sound you made (other than crying) was met with smiles and attention from the adults.
Our next opportunity to experience public speaking was in the grocery store. You learned that our favorite cereal, candy or treat could be ours if we made enough of a public spectacle to embarrass our parent. Yes, this public speaking thing seemed like a good thing - until we got home. Perhaps we were sent to our room. This was sending us mixed messages about public speaking.
Then you went to school. For a budding public speaker this was a gift - a classroom full of an eager audience. Boy,focused and present mind, were we wrong. It turned out that every other student wanted to speak at the same time. Why didn't they realize that your thoughts and words were more important than theirs,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots.
Your years at school brought more opportunities to speak in public. Yet they often seemed like walking through a mine field. You never knew when you might say something dumb or give the wrong answer. The teacher would give you that look and your audience might snicker,greater wealth. And that was just the day-to-day grind of school days,read some brochures. You learned that the public could be very fickle and unappreciative about your speaking.
Public speaking in class was either to ask the teacher a question or to answer the teacher's questions. Ask a dumb question or give the wrong answer and you might be on the receiving end of the teacher's ire. Even if you asked good questions and gave the right answers - you only pleased the teacher and raised the distain of your fellow students. This public speaking thing seemed to be a no win situation. Most days it seemed better to avoid it. Keep your hand down and avoid eye contact.
The boldest public speaker was the class clown who seemed to have a natural talent for making jokes, entertaining the audience and annoying the teacher. The teacher was the one who did the most public speaking in class and that was often boring. Neither was a good role model for a future public speaker.
There was the school play. Perhaps you volunteered or were volunteered and you had a few lines to deliver. You rehearsed the lines before and after breakfast and on the way to school. Maybe you were coached by your parents who didn't have a clue about public speaking or the pressure that you felt. The day of the play you delivered your lines. Perhaps you hated the experience. "Ain't gonna do that again" - you vowed
So why is there a mystery that so many adults fear public speaking?
Maybe it's because they have been conditioned that way most of their lives. If you want to be a better public speaker you might need some serious reconditioning.
Public speaking is often rated as the greatest fear that adults have. Yet speaking by itself is not threatening to most. It's the public in public speaking that frightens people. Why is this?
Perhaps it's the way that you learned to speak in public. Most of us started speaking when we were around 1 year old. Our first words were enthusiastically cultivated and celebrated by our parents. Out first public speaking was what we did on the phone to our grand-parents.
Those were the good old days. Every word and sound you made (other than crying) was met with smiles and attention from the adults.
Our next opportunity to experience public speaking was in the grocery store. You learned that our favorite cereal, candy or treat could be ours if we made enough of a public spectacle to embarrass our parent. Yes, this public speaking thing seemed like a good thing - until we got home. Perhaps we were sent to our room. This was sending us mixed messages about public speaking.
Then you went to school. For a budding public speaker this was a gift - a classroom full of an eager audience. Boy,focused and present mind, were we wrong. It turned out that every other student wanted to speak at the same time. Why didn't they realize that your thoughts and words were more important than theirs,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots.
Your years at school brought more opportunities to speak in public. Yet they often seemed like walking through a mine field. You never knew when you might say something dumb or give the wrong answer. The teacher would give you that look and your audience might snicker,greater wealth. And that was just the day-to-day grind of school days,read some brochures. You learned that the public could be very fickle and unappreciative about your speaking.
Public speaking in class was either to ask the teacher a question or to answer the teacher's questions. Ask a dumb question or give the wrong answer and you might be on the receiving end of the teacher's ire. Even if you asked good questions and gave the right answers - you only pleased the teacher and raised the distain of your fellow students. This public speaking thing seemed to be a no win situation. Most days it seemed better to avoid it. Keep your hand down and avoid eye contact.
The boldest public speaker was the class clown who seemed to have a natural talent for making jokes, entertaining the audience and annoying the teacher. The teacher was the one who did the most public speaking in class and that was often boring. Neither was a good role model for a future public speaker.
There was the school play. Perhaps you volunteered or were volunteered and you had a few lines to deliver. You rehearsed the lines before and after breakfast and on the way to school. Maybe you were coached by your parents who didn't have a clue about public speaking or the pressure that you felt. The day of the play you delivered your lines. Perhaps you hated the experience. "Ain't gonna do that again" - you vowed
So why is there a mystery that so many adults fear public speaking?
Maybe it's because they have been conditioned that way most of their lives. If you want to be a better public speaker you might need some serious reconditioning.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
watch a heart warming family adventure movie
I Give Up!....... How to NOT Say Those Words,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots,Money buys freedom and choices!
Boy, I tell you....it seems the world is just going crazy these days! The economy is going haywire, the war is started, and things just seem to be out of control!
Most of us know how hard it is to keep our business going with all the work and time it requires in just the everyday whirlwind of life. How in the world in such crazy times, do we keep from just saying, "I Give Up!?"
There are several things we can do to energize our brains and our bodies. Taking good care of ourselves is our best defense against feelings of hopelessness, the feeling of being overwhelmed and just plain down-in-the dumps feelings!
Get Some Sun - After being indoors so much during the winter, we need to get out and get some of that springtime sun! The sun is very good for your mind and body. But, do remember to wear protection so you don't get too much exposure.
Eat Healthy Foods - This we all know of course, and it is much easier said than done, but just try to change one meal at a time or add one healthy food at a time.
Take a Good MultiVitamin - A good vitamin can do a lot for you, especially if you don't eat right. You should, however, talk to your doctor before taking any vitamins.
Get Daily Fresh Air and Exercise - We all need that fresh air and lots of exercise. Take a nice quiet early morning walk everyday to get your blood pumping and your brain alert!
Take a Break and Just Do Nothing - When you are feeling overwhelmed just take a break and do "nothing". If you are like me, you feel like you have to be busy and/or working every minute of the day. If this is you, try short five minute breaks to start with and move up to 15 or 20. We all need breaks no^w and then!
Stretch - Take five or ten minutes and do some stretching exercises. These feel absolutely wonderful and can be very invigorating and refreshing!!
Talk to Others - Call a friend or family member and just talk for a while. Share your thoughts and feelings and more than likely they will have you feeling better in minutes!
Have a Little Fun - Turn on some music and dance around the house a bit or do some reading or whatever you like to do. Forget about business and just be glad to be alive!
Push Away from Your Desk - Push away from that desk and just get up and walk around for a few minutes. Putz around the house for awhile and do an odd job or two. Then come back to your puter screen. Do not spend too long in front of the computer at one time.
Close Your Eyes and Drift Away - Just sit back for a moment or two, close your eyes and let your thoughts drift away to wonderful and magical place! Take a few deep, cleansing breaths. When you come back to reality you should feel a bit refreshed!
Enjoy Time with Your Family - Spend some time with your family. Play a game, take a walk, watch a heart warming family adventure movie, or just sit and talk. No matter how hard we work,I wished for a small factory where I could blend my aromatherapy products, we have to make time for our family!
There are lots of ways to "refuel" ourselves, but actually doing them is not so easy,If you're in your retirement planning years. We think we don't have the time, but if we keep ourselves refreshed and healthy, we can probably get more work done in less time and never feel like we want to "Give Up!"
Boy, I tell you....it seems the world is just going crazy these days! The economy is going haywire, the war is started, and things just seem to be out of control!
Most of us know how hard it is to keep our business going with all the work and time it requires in just the everyday whirlwind of life. How in the world in such crazy times, do we keep from just saying, "I Give Up!?"
There are several things we can do to energize our brains and our bodies. Taking good care of ourselves is our best defense against feelings of hopelessness, the feeling of being overwhelmed and just plain down-in-the dumps feelings!
Get Some Sun - After being indoors so much during the winter, we need to get out and get some of that springtime sun! The sun is very good for your mind and body. But, do remember to wear protection so you don't get too much exposure.
Eat Healthy Foods - This we all know of course, and it is much easier said than done, but just try to change one meal at a time or add one healthy food at a time.
Take a Good MultiVitamin - A good vitamin can do a lot for you, especially if you don't eat right. You should, however, talk to your doctor before taking any vitamins.
Get Daily Fresh Air and Exercise - We all need that fresh air and lots of exercise. Take a nice quiet early morning walk everyday to get your blood pumping and your brain alert!
Take a Break and Just Do Nothing - When you are feeling overwhelmed just take a break and do "nothing". If you are like me, you feel like you have to be busy and/or working every minute of the day. If this is you, try short five minute breaks to start with and move up to 15 or 20. We all need breaks no^w and then!
Stretch - Take five or ten minutes and do some stretching exercises. These feel absolutely wonderful and can be very invigorating and refreshing!!
Talk to Others - Call a friend or family member and just talk for a while. Share your thoughts and feelings and more than likely they will have you feeling better in minutes!
Have a Little Fun - Turn on some music and dance around the house a bit or do some reading or whatever you like to do. Forget about business and just be glad to be alive!
Push Away from Your Desk - Push away from that desk and just get up and walk around for a few minutes. Putz around the house for awhile and do an odd job or two. Then come back to your puter screen. Do not spend too long in front of the computer at one time.
Close Your Eyes and Drift Away - Just sit back for a moment or two, close your eyes and let your thoughts drift away to wonderful and magical place! Take a few deep, cleansing breaths. When you come back to reality you should feel a bit refreshed!
Enjoy Time with Your Family - Spend some time with your family. Play a game, take a walk, watch a heart warming family adventure movie, or just sit and talk. No matter how hard we work,I wished for a small factory where I could blend my aromatherapy products, we have to make time for our family!
There are lots of ways to "refuel" ourselves, but actually doing them is not so easy,If you're in your retirement planning years. We think we don't have the time, but if we keep ourselves refreshed and healthy, we can probably get more work done in less time and never feel like we want to "Give Up!"
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Think about what you enjoy the most about other people. For example
Make your Life Flourish
Desiring to have fun is natural, normal and an a sound approach to a healthy state of being. Your life cannot help but flourish if your daily routine is infused with FUN. Consider it a basic need along with food, shelter, clothing, Etc,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots! Of course, this is not to say that you don't take important things seriously. It is to say, however, that you don't treat every experience as though your life depends on it.
Old patterning may have taught us that having fun is acceptable in its proper place and time. And for some, fun is interpreted as a childish action and not appropriate behavior for an adult. Letting go of modeling that no longer serves us creates a natural vacuum and an unblocked channel for fresh new energy, FUN, to come into our live. Start introducing and enveloping this light hearted approach to living at a relaxed and gentle pace, as this is not a test and there is no "pass-fail".
Here are a some simple actions that will generate FUN in your life:
Share Yourself with Others! Start with a SMILE. It works.
Smile at a person you pass on the street, smile and wave at a neighbor; smile and greet your pet at the door; smile at your waiter and leave a really big tip because you're having a great day; smile and start a conversion with the cashier; smile when you pick up the phone, the caller will hear it in your voice, And on and on!!
Nurture Yourself. MAKE some time each day for a "mind" Vacation.
When we were kids fun was scheduled into our school schedule. "Recess" was a time to play games, laugh with our friends and frolic on the playground. By breaking for fun we returned to the classroom feeling refreshed, invigorated and better able to concentrate on the tasks at hand. So, schedule in "Recess". Jump in a pile of leaves; go for a 10 minute walk; next time you see a rainbow, stop and really admire it; test drive a really expensive car; sit and relax; rent a funny movies,Put these into your daily schedule and help them become your habits. Even if small, pop some popcorn and laugh; read a book; listen to music; play a game with the kids; jump on the bed; play hop-scotch; take a drive to no where; stand on your head. Do what presents itself. And make sure you honor your appointment with fun as much as you would any other entry in your calendar!
Pat Yourself on the Back, Often.
Celebrate all the successes in your life. Many times we get hung up on that obvious situation that is causing us turmoil and sapping our energy. If this happens call a time out, breath, and one by one count the things in your life you are proud of and appreciate. What a great way to feel uplifted!
Un burden Yourself
Start to clear away the old dead parts of your life. Return a call, get rid of all the clothes you can't fit into, call a service to clean your house, clear and organize your desk area, be willing to let go of an old "grudge" you be holding on to. Do what is in your face at the moment! Easy does it now, this is not a race.
Let the Outside, In
As children we were taught to protect ourselves, to beware. Now is the time to drop our imaginary guard.. Look at life as a conspiracy to bring you only the very best. I guarantee doors you did not know existed will start to swing open, bringing you a life beyond your wildest and fondest dreams!
Veto Debt, Take on Agreements
Throw out any words in your vocabulary that don't have a pleasant tone. For example; for some the word "debt" may feel mundane and heavy. If this is the case, the words "agreement"or "arrangement" may be good replacements. After all we have a lot of words to choice from!
Be That
Think about what you enjoy the most about other people. For example, is it because they have a positive attitude, joke around, interact in a friendly way, etc. Then do it,Forever Whispering Within Our Ear!
Give Away all your "Shoulds and Have Tos"
Lets face it, not one of us has to do anything. We all make choices. So stand tall, take a "I'm in charge" attitude and notice how you step into your day (and life) with a new found sense of anticipation and wonder.
What's Fun?
Take some time to ponder what "fun" is for you, then take action steps to participate "just for the fun of it". And, whenever you hear or read about an event or activity that fascinates you add it to your "fun" to do list.
Watch a Child
We forgot how to have fun. So an easy and FUN way to help us remember is to watch a child . Feel the magic and wonder they emanate . Take it in. It is contiguous!
Allow Time for Surprises
Every now and then do something nice for someone totally unexpected. Call someone up and tell him or her how much you appreciate them; give someone a back rub, when crossing a toll ridge or entering a toll road, pay the fare for the vehicle behind you; return a grocery cart to the stall; put coins in expired parking meters; give Hershey's Kisses to people,a human being can do some things to alter their world; leave your change in the soda machine for the next person.
Throw this Away!
This article is a tool to assist. Use the parts that work, and throw the rest away. There is one thing that you can always depend on, it is you! Trust yourself. Your inner voice, or gut feelings, is your personal assistant on duty 24/7.
Mary Kay Buttery, 2005
Youth is a wonderful thing. What a crime to waste it on children.
George Bernard Shaw
Desiring to have fun is natural, normal and an a sound approach to a healthy state of being. Your life cannot help but flourish if your daily routine is infused with FUN. Consider it a basic need along with food, shelter, clothing, Etc,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots! Of course, this is not to say that you don't take important things seriously. It is to say, however, that you don't treat every experience as though your life depends on it.
Old patterning may have taught us that having fun is acceptable in its proper place and time. And for some, fun is interpreted as a childish action and not appropriate behavior for an adult. Letting go of modeling that no longer serves us creates a natural vacuum and an unblocked channel for fresh new energy, FUN, to come into our live. Start introducing and enveloping this light hearted approach to living at a relaxed and gentle pace, as this is not a test and there is no "pass-fail".
Here are a some simple actions that will generate FUN in your life:
Share Yourself with Others! Start with a SMILE. It works.
Smile at a person you pass on the street, smile and wave at a neighbor; smile and greet your pet at the door; smile at your waiter and leave a really big tip because you're having a great day; smile and start a conversion with the cashier; smile when you pick up the phone, the caller will hear it in your voice, And on and on!!
Nurture Yourself. MAKE some time each day for a "mind" Vacation.
When we were kids fun was scheduled into our school schedule. "Recess" was a time to play games, laugh with our friends and frolic on the playground. By breaking for fun we returned to the classroom feeling refreshed, invigorated and better able to concentrate on the tasks at hand. So, schedule in "Recess". Jump in a pile of leaves; go for a 10 minute walk; next time you see a rainbow, stop and really admire it; test drive a really expensive car; sit and relax; rent a funny movies,Put these into your daily schedule and help them become your habits. Even if small, pop some popcorn and laugh; read a book; listen to music; play a game with the kids; jump on the bed; play hop-scotch; take a drive to no where; stand on your head. Do what presents itself. And make sure you honor your appointment with fun as much as you would any other entry in your calendar!
Pat Yourself on the Back, Often.
Celebrate all the successes in your life. Many times we get hung up on that obvious situation that is causing us turmoil and sapping our energy. If this happens call a time out, breath, and one by one count the things in your life you are proud of and appreciate. What a great way to feel uplifted!
Un burden Yourself
Start to clear away the old dead parts of your life. Return a call, get rid of all the clothes you can't fit into, call a service to clean your house, clear and organize your desk area, be willing to let go of an old "grudge" you be holding on to. Do what is in your face at the moment! Easy does it now, this is not a race.
Let the Outside, In
As children we were taught to protect ourselves, to beware. Now is the time to drop our imaginary guard.. Look at life as a conspiracy to bring you only the very best. I guarantee doors you did not know existed will start to swing open, bringing you a life beyond your wildest and fondest dreams!
Veto Debt, Take on Agreements
Throw out any words in your vocabulary that don't have a pleasant tone. For example; for some the word "debt" may feel mundane and heavy. If this is the case, the words "agreement"or "arrangement" may be good replacements. After all we have a lot of words to choice from!
Be That
Think about what you enjoy the most about other people. For example, is it because they have a positive attitude, joke around, interact in a friendly way, etc. Then do it,Forever Whispering Within Our Ear!
Give Away all your "Shoulds and Have Tos"
Lets face it, not one of us has to do anything. We all make choices. So stand tall, take a "I'm in charge" attitude and notice how you step into your day (and life) with a new found sense of anticipation and wonder.
What's Fun?
Take some time to ponder what "fun" is for you, then take action steps to participate "just for the fun of it". And, whenever you hear or read about an event or activity that fascinates you add it to your "fun" to do list.
Watch a Child
We forgot how to have fun. So an easy and FUN way to help us remember is to watch a child . Feel the magic and wonder they emanate . Take it in. It is contiguous!
Allow Time for Surprises
Every now and then do something nice for someone totally unexpected. Call someone up and tell him or her how much you appreciate them; give someone a back rub, when crossing a toll ridge or entering a toll road, pay the fare for the vehicle behind you; return a grocery cart to the stall; put coins in expired parking meters; give Hershey's Kisses to people,a human being can do some things to alter their world; leave your change in the soda machine for the next person.
Throw this Away!
This article is a tool to assist. Use the parts that work, and throw the rest away. There is one thing that you can always depend on, it is you! Trust yourself. Your inner voice, or gut feelings, is your personal assistant on duty 24/7.
Mary Kay Buttery, 2005
Youth is a wonderful thing. What a crime to waste it on children.
George Bernard Shaw
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Does that sound too easy
Change Your Dreams and Improve Your Life by Krista O'Connor
Have you ever awakened from a particularly troublesome dream and wondered what it meant and why you dreamt it? We all have dreams like that from time to time and most of us just shrug it off and go on about our daily business.
Here are some examples of the kind of dreams I'm talking about:
Dreams of being chased
Going downhill at breakneck speed
Going up a hill with tremendous effort, never quite getting to the top
Being locked up or can't get out of a place
Losing your way or being left behind
Someone close to you has died, or is injured in some way
And so on. There are an infinite variety of dreams like this,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots, but the key word is troublesome. Troublesome dreams are generally showing us our current fears and anxieties, or the weaker aspects of ourselves.
These dreams are typically pretty vivid and you may even feel great relief when you wake up and realize it was only a dream.
So, let's take these dreams and put them to good use!
This is an easy and very empowering technique to tell your subconscious a different story. Your subconscious wants to help you and will believe whatever you say, whether it is positive or negative. So, in that light it might as well be something positivewouldn't you agree?
The trick is to simply go back into the dream while you are awake and change it.
Does that sound too easy? Well, it is very easy and it feels really good.
There are no dream police telling you that you can't do this! You are allowed to change the dream events to unfold however you please.
Here's an example from my own dream archives and then I'll walk you through the process quickly so you can do it on your own:
I'm sitting in a small RV at the top of a hill and suddenly the RV is pulled backwards back down the hill. It's going really, really fast and I'm terrified of the crash, but don't know what to do.
I hear a voice from somewhere saying "Do Something,Do not trust them!" I look down and see the brake (duh, of course) and slammed on the brakes to stop the momentum,Despite what we may have been taught to believe. It stopped just in time before crashing into a house at the bottom of the hill. I was so relieved and proud of myself for putting on the brakes.
Then as I opened the door, all these starving children came at me with their hands out and crying. This frightened me so I shut the door and listened in horror to them scratching and trying to get in.
I woke up feeling bad.
Okay, so that's the dream. There are all kinds of symbols with meaning within the dream, but for our purposes it's best to keep it as simple as possible. The troublesome parts were flying down the hill backwards out of control, and having those children coming at me. Those are the parts that needed to be addressed.
No doubt this was representing something going on in my life at the time, but that doesn't really matter either. What matters is getting those troublesome feelings turned around and thus giving my subconscious a different story.
I went back into the dream and started from the bottom of the hill. After all, I did manage to stop the crash so that part was alright. I opened the door and as the children were coming towards me, I told them to line up.
I said to them strongly, "I know you all pulled my RV down the hill, and I need to know why!"
I pointed to the first child, "What's your name?" The child replied "Illusion".
The next child was "Guilt" and the third was "No Confidence". At that point, the rest of the children simply disappeared. Apparently, these were sub-aspects built on these three.
I sent them to shower and change' and then come back out. They did so, and were smiling as they stood in front of me. I simply changed them all into goddesses (heywhy not ?) and renamed them "Clarity" "Love" and "Confidence". Then I re-absorbed them back into myself and drove the RV back up the hill and enjoyed a grand view of the ocean.
Boy, did I feel great after doing that! It gave me the boost of self-confidence that I really needed at the time.
Not all of these sessions will be as clear or as effective, but any small change here and there will add up, and the changes are permanent. These exercises make a lasting impression on your subconscious.
Are you ready to give it a try? Okay, here's a quick and easy run down for your next troublesome dream, or even a recent one:
Give yourself 10-15 minutes for this and make sure to write it down afterwards.
Sit comfortably and close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing for a few minutes until you feel relaxed. Be prepared to let your intuition take over and let whatever empowering thoughts come into your mind be rightkeep your logical mind out of it.
Enter your dream where you instinctively feel is the right spot.
Talk to dream characters and ask questions (the characters are simply aspects of yourself). Change whatever you need to change to make the dream a successful one. Be creative!
Come out of your session when you're ready and write it all down for later reference,come down on me like a ton of bricks.. I promise you'll feel wonderful!
Have you ever awakened from a particularly troublesome dream and wondered what it meant and why you dreamt it? We all have dreams like that from time to time and most of us just shrug it off and go on about our daily business.
Here are some examples of the kind of dreams I'm talking about:
Dreams of being chased
Going downhill at breakneck speed
Going up a hill with tremendous effort, never quite getting to the top
Being locked up or can't get out of a place
Losing your way or being left behind
Someone close to you has died, or is injured in some way
And so on. There are an infinite variety of dreams like this,3161 Ugg Classic Short Sparkles Silver Boots, but the key word is troublesome. Troublesome dreams are generally showing us our current fears and anxieties, or the weaker aspects of ourselves.
These dreams are typically pretty vivid and you may even feel great relief when you wake up and realize it was only a dream.
So, let's take these dreams and put them to good use!
This is an easy and very empowering technique to tell your subconscious a different story. Your subconscious wants to help you and will believe whatever you say, whether it is positive or negative. So, in that light it might as well be something positivewouldn't you agree?
The trick is to simply go back into the dream while you are awake and change it.
Does that sound too easy? Well, it is very easy and it feels really good.
There are no dream police telling you that you can't do this! You are allowed to change the dream events to unfold however you please.
Here's an example from my own dream archives and then I'll walk you through the process quickly so you can do it on your own:
I'm sitting in a small RV at the top of a hill and suddenly the RV is pulled backwards back down the hill. It's going really, really fast and I'm terrified of the crash, but don't know what to do.
I hear a voice from somewhere saying "Do Something,Do not trust them!" I look down and see the brake (duh, of course) and slammed on the brakes to stop the momentum,Despite what we may have been taught to believe. It stopped just in time before crashing into a house at the bottom of the hill. I was so relieved and proud of myself for putting on the brakes.
Then as I opened the door, all these starving children came at me with their hands out and crying. This frightened me so I shut the door and listened in horror to them scratching and trying to get in.
I woke up feeling bad.
Okay, so that's the dream. There are all kinds of symbols with meaning within the dream, but for our purposes it's best to keep it as simple as possible. The troublesome parts were flying down the hill backwards out of control, and having those children coming at me. Those are the parts that needed to be addressed.
No doubt this was representing something going on in my life at the time, but that doesn't really matter either. What matters is getting those troublesome feelings turned around and thus giving my subconscious a different story.
I went back into the dream and started from the bottom of the hill. After all, I did manage to stop the crash so that part was alright. I opened the door and as the children were coming towards me, I told them to line up.
I said to them strongly, "I know you all pulled my RV down the hill, and I need to know why!"
I pointed to the first child, "What's your name?" The child replied "Illusion".
The next child was "Guilt" and the third was "No Confidence". At that point, the rest of the children simply disappeared. Apparently, these were sub-aspects built on these three.
I sent them to shower and change' and then come back out. They did so, and were smiling as they stood in front of me. I simply changed them all into goddesses (heywhy not ?) and renamed them "Clarity" "Love" and "Confidence". Then I re-absorbed them back into myself and drove the RV back up the hill and enjoyed a grand view of the ocean.
Boy, did I feel great after doing that! It gave me the boost of self-confidence that I really needed at the time.
Not all of these sessions will be as clear or as effective, but any small change here and there will add up, and the changes are permanent. These exercises make a lasting impression on your subconscious.
Are you ready to give it a try? Okay, here's a quick and easy run down for your next troublesome dream, or even a recent one:
Give yourself 10-15 minutes for this and make sure to write it down afterwards.
Sit comfortably and close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing for a few minutes until you feel relaxed. Be prepared to let your intuition take over and let whatever empowering thoughts come into your mind be rightkeep your logical mind out of it.
Enter your dream where you instinctively feel is the right spot.
Talk to dream characters and ask questions (the characters are simply aspects of yourself). Change whatever you need to change to make the dream a successful one. Be creative!
Come out of your session when you're ready and write it all down for later reference,come down on me like a ton of bricks.. I promise you'll feel wonderful!
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